Back in March Loren shared her honest and fresh perspective of being the wife of a firefighter and the impact it has made in her family life.
"Always a Fireman" is now the most-read article since the debut of The Firehouse Table and it has gained over 3000+ reads from all over the country.
The text below is from an email received in response to "Always a Fireman" and like Loren, many others share the same difficult task of fire life.
If you haven't had a chance, you can read her original piece here.
I just read your article Homefront: Always a Fireman and felt compelled to email and thank you. My husband posted it to my Facebook page. While that may seem strange to some, you can probably understand. He is at work at the fire station, and I am home. It is not completely uncommon for us to send FB messages, etc. to stay connected!
I felt like I was reading my own record of past experiences. We have been in the same position so many times, as his job takes control of our life, and our plans get rearranged. As I type this, my husband is at the station, and I am home alone with my three little ones. We just got back from a great day at the beach visiting family, but of course, he missed it. I wonder if he will make it home tomorrow because there is a big tropical storm approaching, and it is the 4th of July. Like many other fire families, we have learned to adapt, but it still doesn't make it any easier. We joke that the quiet days when we have no plans; nothing happens, and there are no calls. And the days we are busy and looking forward to something, that phone rings immediately.
I felt comforted, as I read your article, knowing someone else just gets it. I am tired; we just had our third baby, and she is not a good sleeper. I politely smile when everyone tells me to pump a bottle for her and let my husband take her for a night so I can get some rest. That has not happened yet, and I know it is highly unlikely. He is up throughout the nights when he is at the station and needs his sleep when he is home. He also works 24-hour shifts and sadly my kids are just used to his unpredictable schedule. We have had the Easter Bunny visit early, celebrated birthdays a day late or a day early and shared our favorite summer treat, ice cream, in the station parking lot. We just make it work because like your husband, my husband could do nothing else. He loves his job so much, and I love that he is so passionate about it. I am proud of him, my kids adore him and beam when they see him march in a parade, drive the fire truck, and slide down the pole. It is not an easy life, and the fire wife is often the unsung hero, stepping in to save the day at home when her firefighter husband is saving the day somewhere else. It is a lifestyle that demands flexibility, adaptability, creativity and humor. Thanks again for the article, it is nice to feel understood.
Wishing you all the best!
P.S. I too am a guidance counselor - middle school :)"
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Loren Davine, M.Ed., C.A.G.S., is the Executive Director of NoFires, Inc. and a former high school guidance counselor. She is also a full-time mom and the wife of Deputy Fire Chief Jon Davine. Loren has been a member of Pioneer Valley Crossfit since 2008 and offers a unique perspective to our community on family, fitness, and fire safety for juvenile firesetters.
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